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You Set the Tone

"Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her."

Proverbs 31:28 (NIV)

My husband has always told me “You set the tone”. I didn’t quite know what that meant, but now I fully understand it. The climate of our homes as mothers is dictated by how we are feeling. When we are good, our families are good; when we are down, they are down as well. Instead of seeing this as a burden, I choose to see it as a charge for us as mothers to take care of ourselves and do the things that we enjoy,so that we can show up as our best selves for the ones that mean the most to us. This may look like waking up before the family so that we can get ahead of the day and have some quiet time to ourselves in the morning. It may look like committing to exercise at least three times a week. It may look like interceding for ourselves and other moms so that we are able to show up as our best selves daily.

This does not mean that we aren’t permitted bad days. We all have them and I think that it is important for us to show our children how we handle those bad days. We are the greatest example to our children and what we show them, they will accept as normal. Our homes do not run without us, and we don’t run without taking care of ourselves. It is high time that we take the time to take care of ourselves so that we can show up in the best way in our homes. Our children call us blessed, our husbands call us blessed, and we are most importantly blessed by God.

If no one else has told you lately, you are most beloved by your family. They depend on you, so make sure that you are taking care of yourself. We are blessed to be a blessing. Let’s work towards enhancing what truly matters. I am leaving you with a few questions to ponder on as you go about your day.


  1. What legacy do I want to leave behind for my family?

  2. What habits do I want to improve so that I can show up as my best self?

  3. Who can I connect with who will keep me accountable in reaching my goals?

  4. What fills me?

  5. In what ways am I a blessing to my family?

Your Fellow Able Mom,


 Dear God, I pray for the mama who is reading this. May she understand that it is a privilege to set the tone for her family, and may she see it as an opportunity for her to do what fills her. May she always feel blessed, and may she lead her family with love and nurturing just as you lead her.

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